Between respect and humility, which precedes the other?
For which one must be for the other to become?
A person who lacks respect is one that is incapable of learning, and as a result, incapable of growing, of expanding, of progressing, of developing…
For a person without eyes will see oneself and others much clearer than a person with two eyes and no respect…
For a person without arms will grasp the world much easier than another with arms but no respect…
A man with all the money in the world, but without respect, is poorer than a person who has nothing but respect…
Respect and humility go hand in hand…
Which, however, is the birther and which is birthed?
What comes first?
For it seems one with respect will have the opportunity to come to sense humility. However, one with no respect will be incapable of having humility and therefore will have to be humbled by life in order for respect to potentially spark within one’s system…
Although one cannot be humble if one is not respectful, one can be humbled without being respectful, even though that which humbles one cannot be fully absorbed without the respect towards the humbling circumstance…
Because if a person does not respect life, they cannot truly be humbled by life…for the things that would be humbling to someone respectful, to the one without respect, those things that naturally would humble a person would be used as an excuse to blame and put fault rather than be awakened…
For respect is the door through which one can truly experience life and the world…because it is respect that becomes the pores to one’s being in which it allows the absorbing that is needed to learn and adapt, to be educated, to be taught, to be guided, to be directed, to be advised, and to be humbled…
It is through these experiences, through life lessons that one learns, and it is in this learning that one becomes educated and develops, attaining self-growth and self-discovery, and through that one becomes humbled…
Being humble is being aware, appreciative, grateful, and thankful of the gifts God has Graced one with…
Humility is understanding one’s own unique and special greatness that God has bestowed one with…But if one does not have respect, that indicates that they are absent of respect within themselves, and in that absence, they are unable to respect God’s Graces and God’s Gifts, and therefore blinded to the uniqueness of their being…
One gains humility through that which one is able to absorb, and absorbance is done so through the possession of respect…for one who moves with humility is one who lives with respect…humility is respecting the power one’s been granted to possess…
Respect allows one to discover their true powers, and in those powers, one is humbled…and yet ironically, could it be that the world has programmed men to view respect as a form of weakness, so that they close themselves from growing their innate powers?
The reason it seems that beings view respect as weakness is due to their own insecurities.
From insecurity, people mold themselves into a person that does not show respect due to their perceptions that it is a weakness…and without grasping the consequences of such an approach, the habit of not being respectful is formed by refusing to exercise respect…
For one must respect the things that are able to humble one…
For without one’s respect towards that which can humble one, the humbling source, event, situation, circumstance, or person cannot be taken with the seriousness needed for humility to be sown…
Respect gives a person the capability to take things seriously enough to receive it…
If one does not take the laws seriously, it implies one does not respect them and therefore is more inclined to break them…
If one does not take human life seriously, it is due to one not respecting human life and therefore is more inclined to harm or destroy it without hesitation…
It is the seriousness that is birthed by respect that allows one to regard things with care, and in reverse, it is the lack of seriousness from the absence of respect that one is inclined to disregard things and therefore discard them…
It is one who takes life seriously that learns…
One who takes marriage seriously that is driven to be a good partner…
It is one that takes parenthood seriously that strives to be a good mother or father…
Seriousness is not about being rigid towards things, nor is it being overwhelmed due to the seriousness one has in receiving things, but rather it is the understanding of the importance of it…
Seriousness is not about being stern, rigid, or cold…seriousness is about being able to see the importance of things, places, people, circumstances, and situations…
In progression, respect opens two pathways that connect to one another within an individual; one path is seriousness, and the other path is importance…it is in the ability to conceive things with seriousness that allows one to see the importance in that thing, which subsequently allows one to have humility towards that which is being conceived, and that conception sparks the value within an individual towards life…
It is with this inner value that one with respect will be able to see the opportunity for growth in every situation and circumstance…
That is one major difference between one who has respect and another that is absent of it…the person with respect has the ability to see opportunity for growth, for gain, and for success in the inevitable suffering, losing, and failure that life will present one with…and in that one will not suffer in the suffering, one will not lose in the loss, one will not fail in the failure, but will ascend to a greater self…because one is able to see passed the outer layer of suffering being presented and deep into the marrow…and there one will see that life does not bring suffering for one to suffer, but rather to grow…for what appears on the surface layer to be spite, at the heart of it, the truth is, that it comes from love…
In contrast, another can experience a similar fate but with the absence of respect. In that absence they will see suffering, loss, and failure as obstacles, punishment, and defeat…and therefore will come to view themselves as lifelong victims to life’s spite…
The absence of respect robbed them of growing through life’s difficulties; even more tragic is being robbed of the humility that comes through the beauties of life…
And the reason one allowed themselves to be robbed of respect was due to their insecurities…insecurities that suffocated the seed of respect within them and made them vulnerable to being preyed upon by fear…
For they did not choose to have a respectful conduct and therefore were controlled and governed by fear…Respect allows one to be, to experience, to grow, and be free…whereas fear does not need to be respected to be in control, for it suppresses and oppresses by frightening one into shape through the exploitation of one’s fears…
Between respect and humility, which precedes the other?
Respect…
The reason being that one would need respect to have humility is because one would need to respect themselves to be aware and conscious of the gifts that they possess…and therefore be humbled by the possession…
Teo Estepani, LPCC 